Ten Things a Wife Should Regularly Tell Her Husband

1. I am so thankful for how hard you work and the way you provide for our family.

2.   I feel secure with you. You keep our family safe and protected.

3.   You are so important to the kids. I love the way you nurture and guide them. They really need you.

4.   I want you all to myself sometimes!

5.   How do you do that? I’m impressed at how well you……..

6.   I appreciate that you listen to me and try to understand me when I’m emotional, even if I don’t make sense.

7.   You are still so much fun to be with!

8.   I could not do all this without you by my side.

9.   I love seeing what God is doing in your life. You are a Godly man.

10. I am so attracted to you…lets go to bed!

Why a Marriage and Family Therapist Wants You to Exercise More!

My clients are always a bit surprised when the first homework assignment I give them is to increase their exercise. Whether they are depressed, anxious, angry or just stressed out, one of my first questions is “How often do you exercise?”

Why do I care? Physical activity is closely linked to our emotional well-being. Numerous studies report that exercise affects and improves our mood. We are happier, calmer and less stressed if we are moving on a regular basis. According to the article “Exercise and Depression”, we release a chemical called endorphins when we exercise. Endorphins act as analgesics, which mean they diminish the perception of pain. They also act as sedatives. Thus endorphins trigger both positive and calming feelings in the body(WebMD, 2011).

According to an article called “Depression and Anxiety: Exercise Eases Symptoms” written by the Mayo Clinic Staff, exercise will also reduce the immune system chemicals that can worsen depression. Activity also increases our body temperature which can have a calming effect(Mayo Clinic, 2011).

Exercise also impacts your interpersonal relationships. Improved self esteem, mood and reduced stress allow us to function and problem solve better in our relationships. Not to mention, exercise also helps your sex life! A Harvard University study of 160 male and female swimmers in their 40s and 60s showed a positive relationship between regular physical activity and the frequency and enjoyment of sexual intercourse. Results stated swimmers in their 60s reported sex lives comparable to people in the general population in their 40s (Krucoff & Krucoff, 2000). Bortz & Wallace (1999) also found a high level of sexual activity and satisfaction to be correlated with degree of fitness in both older men and women.

So if you are thinking about adding exercise to your life, go for it! Not only will your body have great results, but your emotional well-being and interpersonal relationships will benefit as well. ©Elaine M. Wilkins, MFT 2014